Black Woman Magic Includes Neither Crystal Balls Nor Time Machines
When pointing the finger at Black single moms, remember the three pointing back at you.
The Roe v. Wade debate has certainly been eye-opening for many women. Although I have spoken about my feelings on this topic in detail, this is not about that at all. Instead, I wanted to take the time to address the fact that Black women get blamed for everything in our community. And I, for one, am done taking the blame.
The Great Divide
If you frequent social media sites such as Clubhouse, Riff, Twitter, etc., you were likely triggered by the great abortion debate. Nevertheless, for Black women especially, this turned out to be a massive finger-pointing session. On the one hand, suddenly, it seems that everyone, or at least most Black men, have decided that abortion is thee cardinal sin, which is a questionable stance, given the high rates of violence in many predominantly Black male spaces.
We have been told for years that the most ‘dangerous place for an African American child is in their mother’s womb.’ But almost no one seems to want to discuss why that is or take any steps to fix these issues before encouraging Black women to have children.
Moreover, I certainly haven’t heard a peep about the staggering homicide rates of Black women and how the most dangerous places for us and our children seem to be in our very own homes and communities. And yes, this does include pregnant Black women as well. But unfortunately, black women are also the most likely to be killed after having a child.
To add injury to insult, Black women are also three times more likely to die during childbirth. And outside of medical racism, there seems to be no underlying reason for this. Yet and still, I haven’t seen one protest from Black men, or any men, about the fact that Black women are literally being murdered simply for daring to bear these children in the first place.